5 Comments
User's avatar
Teri Leigh 💜's avatar

I was too "good" to be wild and drunk in my 20s. and I was too responsible in my 30s. Now, in my 50s, I don't like noise. I just find other ways to fill my aliveness.

that said, I wonder if there will be a threshold that happens when kids don't care whether they are being filmed, stitched, or documented anymore. It is so "normal" that the lose inhibitions and just do whatever they want anyway? I hope that happens.

Expand full comment
Nick Simard's avatar

I mean…maybe? I just hope their willingness to just be themselves and try things won’t have been beaten out of them by then. I think in their minds it’s not worth the effort, and maybe they’re right. Maybe being carefree and letting loose can’t be as fun now as it used to be. Most of us are a little more guarded.

Expand full comment
Kristi Keller 🇨🇦's avatar

As I read this I was like, wow...he's right! We (the older ones) DID have some rip-roaring 20s, didn't we!? None of this online bullshit existed back then. We did actual stuff.

I wouldn't want to be raising kids in this day and age, that's for sure.

Expand full comment
Nick Simard's avatar

Yup. I think part of being in my 40s at this particular time is a bit of nostalgia (ah, the good ol’ days) but something more. Gonna workshop a term I just made up:

Postalgia (n.)

The ache for the world we lived in before everything became a performance.

Not just nostalgia for a simpler time — but longing for the pre- of this post- era:

pre-social media, pre-AI, pre-influencer, pre-optimized-everything.

A soul-level homesickness for when human connection still felt… human.

Expand full comment
Kristi Keller 🇨🇦's avatar

That's a fantastic word for it. I'll be the first to like and share that post. I just said that to my mom today...how I miss feeling young and reckless once in a while. And I wasn't even young..that was in my 40s 😁

Expand full comment